So Heather and I were discussing one of the many things that really irks us about the (no longer a minority in New Zealand) gay community.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve tapped guys before and we’re pretty sure if Heather was drunk and roofied enough, she would have have a gay old time, but who we have sex with doesn’t define us.
He didn’t necessarily make his announcement to say that it defines him… based on what I’ve seen of the video (and at the time of typing this) he did it to stop the media from leaking it or being tabloid-ed like a mofo of ‘who is this mystery man with Tom’. It took courage but it didn’t really define him. Some things that defines him are that he is an Olympic medalist, a diver and a Brit.
Now some of mine and Heather’s mutual friends and family, being gay defines them. The same goes for celebrities. NPH, Ellen, Jesse Tyler Ferguson… being gay defines them. Which is really sad. Why let who you prefer to have sex with define you?
The odds of finding a bromo is almost slim to none. I think we can count of one hand how many gay friends we have where being gay does not define them. One being Heather’s dad. Another being my transgender uncle/aunty. Celebrity-wise, I had trouble but could only think of Matt Bomer, Duncan James and Jonathan Bennett
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I don’t know. I, personally, think its ridiculous that if you come out as gay then you have to let it define you. But like I said, it was just one of the things.
Don’t get me started on the preachiness, double standards, using the Government to force the church to do something, shallow, narcissistic, cliquey, arrogant, heterophobic, closed-mindedness a lot of the gay community do.
Basically, it’s now like when we hear news about anything to do with the gay community, we just roll our eyes and sigh.
So I’ll end on a quote from a conversation I had earlier this year… “some of the most close-minded prejudiced people I’ve ever met are gay”.
Edit: This is also my 500 post on tumblr. Bravo me.