So I bumped into this post today and while the line in italics made me smirk the line underneath it made me cringe because am I one of the few people who doesn’t think like a rapist? People who attach the hashtag #rapeculture make me think “you know what? you must be a rapist or something because I don’t think like that and I don’t see what you’re seeing so it’s definitely you and not me”. The irony is that I will be using the hashtag.
Now before you get all high and mighty, I’m going to smash down your pretentious little pedestal and shoot your high horse because while I am a guy, I have been a victim of rape. This happened almost ten years ago. I’ve moved on. I still see humour in things. I don’t think the world is jaded. I chose not to let it define me. I understand allusions, metaphors and allegory but if a person is pathetic enough to read into everything as this or that or whatever then you’re going to lead a very sad life. Most people I’ve met that have harped on about rape culture usually are accompanied by one specific line if asked one very apt question:
"Have you ever been raped?"
9 times out of 10 the answer will be along the lines of “no. but I know someone who was” or “no. but if by that you mean being objectified or ogled then yes I have”.
The fact you said “no” is the answer itself. Anything else that follows is pure justification to allow for their view/s to be forced upon us. Oh look I did rape culture allegory right there.
Pure and simple. If your answer is “No” in any way, shape or form then count yourself lucky. A big thumbs up from a rape victim right here y’all. While I can openly talk about it, many can’t. And constantly saying there is a culture around rape is sick. Not just with the rapists but with the thinks-like-a-rapists as well. The anti-rape culture preachers (advocates are fine because they usually aren’t preachy about it).
I’m not advocating rape whatsoever. I’m just sick and tired of people seeing things that aren’t there. Destroying innocence because they think they are right. And reading between the lines because they have nothing better to do. Guess what. If you do read between the lines and you’re one of the few who sees something no one else saw, then you’re reading it wrong. I guess if I view the one-liner from a different perspective then sure, I can see what they are getting at but seriously. Get over yourself you pretentious fuck.
Rape happens unfortunately. It’s a societal thing that does need to be stopped but if you’re seeing rape culture in a one-line wisecrack or (as I have posted previously), a children’s movie then you need to go get some help. Especially since if you’re thinking something is rape culture, you need to find out why you’re seeing things like a rapist.